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Monday, November 27, 2017

Embrace the Small Miracles

I will Lift Mine Eyes


To fully live we must embrace the small miracles in each moment.
So many reasons to be thankful today, and everyday......
For waking up.
For my parents, and those who played that role through the years.
For family, near and far.
For the sound of my children's laughter throughout the house, even at crazy hours of the night.
For friends, those who have known me forever, and those friendships that are new.
For humor that makes difficult situations easier.
For the ability to learn new skills, and continue to study.
For adventures taken, and yet to be taken.
For beauty that surrounds me in Nature.
For the chirping of the birds early in the morning.
For my favorite books.
For music.
For musical instruments.
For my ability to play the piano, even with achy fingers.
For my gift of creativity.
For traditions.
For weather that changes.
For innovation and technology.
For energy, even when it wanes.
For music left by Elvis.
For family that travels distances to spend time with me.
For quiet mornings, while tired little ones slumber.
For Christmas music playing on the radio.
For a tea cup full of pleasure.
For not too cold November mornings
For pre-lit Christmas trees
For dirty shoes after a nature hike with family
For sip and stroll evenings
For cool November days for hiking with no mosquitoes.
For handmade ornaments
For simple reminders around the house of a life lived....snow globes of places visited,
pictures with friends and family in different parts of the world, rafting on rivers in Taiwan,
listening to the Bhuddists monks chanting in their monastery in the mountains of Taiwan,
making bricks in Mexico,
working with orphans in Mexico,
the beauty of the skyline in Hong Kong,
the sun rising over the Great Wall of China,
cruising on the Cajun Queen on the Mississippi River....and so much more

......Most of all, I am grateful for the empty cross because I know what Jesus did for me, and that Jesus is alive!

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

10 ways I stay well during cold and flu season.



You can't avoid germs, and it seems even more challenging during cold and flu season.  
Because I have lupus and other chronic illness,es it is very critical that I stay as well as possible.  There is no small cold when you have a chronic illness.  Even a slight cold can cause a huge flare that could last for days.

I have been blessed in that I have not had a cold or the flu in at about 8 or 9 years, and I don't get the flu shot.   This is how I have managed to avoid the cold or flu.

1.  My first line of defense is  using an immune-boosting tonic such as this elderberry syrup.  I know.  I know.  I have lupus.  What am I doing boosting my immune system?  I have not had any issues, and have worked with a Master Herbalist to start healing my gut (more in the next segment), which is where about 75% of the immune system resides.  I even became a certified herbalist a couple of years after I was diagnosed with lupus, and have since been using aromatherapy and herbal remedies to heal my body.

2.  I started to heal my gut by filling up on probiotics.  I also read this book by Dr. Josh Axe, which  is instrumental in helping me to start healing my gut.  It has a wealth of information about the kinds of food that we should be eating to promote gut health.  I also take a lot of other supplements, such as turmeric, ginger, licoroce root, ashwagandha, astragalus and reishi mushroom, to name a few.  These all help to reduce my stress levels.

I also eat probiotic-rich food such as sauerkraut,  kefir, kombucha and miso.  I also love to drink bone broth and make it year round, but especially in the winter time.

3.  I drink a lot of bone broth. You can choose liquid or powder such as this one.

You should be drinking bone broth everyday.  Here's why.

"Bone broth contains lots of nutrients, helps to strengthen the immune system and is also known for its antiviral properties. My son loves to drink a cup of it in he morning, or anytime throughout the day.  It is a great snack, as well as simple lunch beverage."


4. I use raw honey.
Raw honey has amazing nutritional qualities. It is full of antioxidants and also contains powerful antimicrobial and antibacterial properties. Honey is so powerful in keeping us healthy because of an enzyme within honey that is believed to produce hydrogen peroxide. In the body, this enzyme fights against pathogens and infections, and prevents the growth of bacteria as it enters the body. I also keep honey sticks around for my youngest son.  He loves to just snack on one periodically.

Adding honey to some of your favorite dishes can help to prevent colds, sore throats, and allergies. Because the heat may affect the enzyme, do not add it to any liquid or dish that is too hot. 

5.  I eat a lot of greens. 

I love seaweed and spirulina specifically. They help increase the production of antibodies so that my body can better protect itself against invading microorganisms. Spirulina specifically stimulates the T and B cells, which are the natural immune cells. It also helps organs function despite toxins and germs that enter.  I also use moringa, fresh as well as in powder form, as well as kale and spinach.


6. I use essential oils to stay healthy during cold and flu season and all year long. Use an Immune Support Oil Blend such as this one.
This gift set  actually has an immune aid, germ buster as well as a depression buster essential oil blend.

7.  I do Abhyanga, a self-massage using this massage oil.


8. I take Epsom salt bath soaks.  I also add a few drops of the immune supporting essential oils to the tub, and soak for at least 20 minutes. When we are stressed, the first mineral our body burns through is magnesium, and a deficiency in magnesium can cause all sorts of health issues.

8.  I eat Healthy Saturated Fats Daily, such as coconut oil, ghee and real organic butter.  Unprocessed, saturated fats are essential for energy, hormone production, a healthy immune system, and many other important functions. 

9.  I stay hydrated by drinking filtered water. Remember! The center of the immune system lies in the gut, so you need to keep it as healthy as possible to keep your immune system strong. Chlorine is a disinfectant that kills bacteria and is added to most drinking water. It can damage the good bacteria in your gut, making you more susceptible to inflammation, allergies, autoimmune disease, etc. Click here to read about my favorite at-home water filter, and to find out what is in your water. I use filtered to make my favorite Vitamin C packed Hibiscus tea.


10. I drink a lot of my Winter Wellness Herbal Blend.  The recipe can be found in the link, as well as my reasons for using it.

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

What's in my Self-Care Kit?

When you live with a chronic illness like lupus, or POTS and the all the other issues I've been diagnosed with, self care becomes a very integral part of healing and/or coping with chronic illness.  It is a very essential part, if you ask me.

 Self care, for me, can range from buying myself flowers to having an Epsom salt bath soak, and can aid in my journey to recovery.

One of the things I like to have when I am on the go is a "Self-Care" kit.  There are a variety of items that I have in this kit, and each of them serves its purpose.





1. Essential Oils

Essential oils are by far one of the most used items in my kit.  I use them everyday for various reasons ranging from detoxing, to stress relief, to beating fatigue. to treating COPD

My  picks: Eden's Garden Stress Relief Blend  and Plant Therapy Let It Go Synergy Blend


2. Artsy Materials

As an artist, being creative is very important to me, both as a career as well as a way to cope with the pains of chronic illness.  Sometimes I am not able to complete large scale paintings, so I may just sketch in my my sketchbook, or write in my journal, or create poetry, or color.  Doodling is very therapeutic as well. My favorite coloring books are this and this (if you have an irreverent sense of humor).

How I Use The Creative Arts To Deal With Lupus And Chronic Illness


Bubble blowing can be great fun, and even offer health benefits. The deep breathing required to blow bubbles is great for relaxation and stress relief.

4. Snuggie Blanket with Sleeves where I literally stay wrapped in warmth. Sometimes you just need a soft blanket to curl up with and I have a nice selection. My sister, Rhonda, gave me one last Christmas, and I absolutely love it.  It is frequently used by my kids as well, and I have to steal it back.
Winter Wellness Tea Recipe:
Note: "Part" refers to your choice of measurement. It could be as small as a tablespoon or as large as a cup.

6. My immune-boosting tonic, this elderberry syrup.  You can also use the Elderberry gummies, if drinking the syrup is not for you.

7. Fidget Tools, like my Rainbow Anti-anxiety Fidget Spinner and Silly Putty or Stress Relief Slime.  My youngest son was given a fidget spinner by a neighbor, and another by one of his friends. I thought it was a was just another waste of money until I tried it one day and realized just how calm it made me feel when I was playing with it.  My son gave me one that is rainbow colored, and I absolutely love it.


 8. Trauma Oil, and my Nerve and Joint Pain Blend. If you have a natural first aid kit, you’ll want to be sure to include Trauma Oil among your primary items.

What is Trauma Oil?

Trauma Oil is a blend of three organic flowers:
  1. Calendula,
  2. St. John’s Wort
  3. Arnica
I use this so much that I created several blends and even wrote a small book with the recipes.
10.  My Dammit Doll When I'm having a tough day with pain or stress, this is the ideal thing to throw against the wall, or beat into the pillow. 

11. Lotion like this orange and ginger body lotion is great for energizing.  If you need to relax, then this lavender lotion is perfect.


12. Tea and herbal remedies
14. Photos of loved ones.
15. Epsom Salts Magnesium is very critical to cellular health, and Epsom salt bath soak is a very simple way to get an uptake of magnesium. I can relax and detoxify while taking a soothing bath.

16. Cannabis Oil I blend this oil with a carrier oil,  It is a perfect complement to my nerve and joint pain blend.

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What's in your self-care kit?  Do you have one?  Did I miss anything?  What else would you suggest for my kit?

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to post them below.

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

In the spirit of thanksgiving.....



This happened two years ago, but it still relevant today.  Reposting from FB:

"I have to share an experience I had yesterday. Right now, I have no WiFi at home so we've been going to the library, a location where I do art classes or to McDonald's for their free WiFi. Nicholas is home-schooled and his curriculum is online so we need WiFi.
As we sat there working, Nicholas' Pre-k and daycare teacher walked in. He reminisced about naps, and how he missed nap time (as if he couldn't take naps still  ) The young man sitting in the next booth piped in saying he missed them, too. We all chuckled!

Several minutes went by and I noticed this young man was only sipping on a glass of water. I leaned over and handed him $10. It wasn't much, and I had every dime budgeted, but he was hungry. 

I wish I could have recorded the glistening in his eyes when I told him to get something to eat. When he returned he had so much food, it was clear he hadn't eaten in a while.

Nicholas and I finished up, and prepared to walk to a nearby pharmacy where I had to fill a script for iron, ferrous sulphate, tablets. This was suggested first to raise my iron content to avoid blood transfusions.

I explained this to the pharmacist who told me that she had to get blood transfusions as a result of cancer. The transfusions take about 8 hours to complete.

Then she spent several minutes trying to find my Medicaid insurance in the system, to no avail, even going as far as to call the ER where I was seen.

The prescription was filled, and I was called to the counter. "Here's your prescription, Miss. We couldn't find your insurance info, but the pharmacist paid your bill for you."
Now I know these tabs are not too expensive, but I thanked her profusely, and gave a glance towards Heaven in gratitude."

Ways I take care of myself as a Grandparent raising a grandchild



I certainly didn't expect to be raising a child at this age, even though my youngest is only 11.  Never in my wildest dreams did I expect to be having those late night feeding and diaper changes.  I thought those were over several years ago.
The late night feedings and diaper changes are supposed to be done with in this stage of my life, but I find myself back there in taking care of my granddaughter.
At times I am overwhelmed physically, emotionally and to a certain extent financially.
I wake up in pain everyday.  Some days I have to push through, trying to make sure that my youngest son does not see the pain that I am in.  Emotionally, I am on a roller-coaster.  Some days I am angry at the situation that  my granddaughter's parents have found themselves in.  Some days I am frustrated because I feel that they should know better at their age. It's emotionally draining, so I know how important it is to take care of myself to be able to take care of my son and granddaughter.  Some days I just go and go and not give a thought to taking care of myself or feeding my soul and I know that is not good.  I have found ways to feed my soul and body to prevent being totally depleted.
My days start off with oil-pulling and a very healthy and balanced breakfast.  Eating well is crucial for me, not only because I deal with health issues, but also because I believe that what you put into your body creates the framework for how your body feels and behaves.
Recently I received a call from a gentleman who I realized was a great resource.  He directed me to a local grandparents raising grandchildren support group.  This is a great arena for support and help, as well as making new friends.
As an artist it has been a challenge to engage in my painting and other creations. Hobbies and relaxation are not luxuries. Carving out time for rest and relaxation is essential to avoid burnout and depression. So I use “me time to really nurture myself.  Since I home-school, one of the things we love to do during the day is yoga, even if it is just for 15 minutes.  We found a great lady named Adriene on Youtube who has some awesome videos.  We love her because her videos encourage deep breathing and meditation, something we often forget to do, but which enhances our day.

I also love gardening.  It is not just a hobby for me.  I grow a lot of my own food, so it is essential to survival.  As an Herbalist, I also have to get out in nature.  It is an integral part of my life.
One of the things I am now looking into is childcare for my granddaughter.  She is at the age where she need the interaction with kids her age.  It will also give me more flexibility throughout the day to get school done, plus to go to my own doctor appointments.

At the end of the day, I love to do Abhyanga, a self-massage, using an oil blend with essential oils.

During this time of the year I also keep on hand my Winter Wellness tea, which I also drink throughout the year.  It is something that I think everyone should have in their wellness arsenal.


If you would like to read more of my work and how I cope with chronic illness with all the challenges of normal life, you can find me here.
Fatigue is something that I battle everyday.  I love using essential oils for fighting fatigue because they don't give me a high, and then make me crash a few hours later.

I also use essential oils to cope with stress.  The stresses of chronic illness are tough enough.  Couple that with taking care of a baby, and I need all the help I can get.


Vegging out in front of the television is not a norm for me, but if I do veg out in front of the television I like to make it worth my while.  These are some of my favorite inspirational clips from some of my favorite movies that help to keep me going on.

Until later.....

Duty calls.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

How taking care of my granddaughter is affecting my health.


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Raising children can be taxing at any age, but it can put even more physical and emotional strain on an older person. Poor health, in turn can make it more difficult for some grandparents to perform care-giving duties.

I had just assumed that my full-time child-rearing responsibilities will end once my children are grown and out of the house, but now I seemed to have joined millions of grandparents across the country who find themselves nurturing another generation.....for one reason or another.

I was frequently asked, "Do you think you're up to the challenge?"  I knew what that meant.

Taking care of babies would be easy enough, if I were in my 30's and not dealing with my own chronic illness.  I'm 48, with lupus, POTS and other health issues.  I'm not complaining about raising my grandchild, as I would have it no other way.  I know what the alternative would be, and having her bounced around in the foster system until the parents got their act together is not an option for me.

How do I do it? I wake up in pain everyday.  My joints are usually swollen, and it is a challenge to just get moving in the morning. I am usually up at least twice during the night to change my granddaughter's diaper, because if I leave it on for the whole night it usually results in leakage, meaning wet bed sheets, and my granddaughter sleeping in those for a few hours. She, also gets a bottle at some point during the night when she wakes up hungry.


When she wakes up during the night I usually spring up from bed, pain and all.  My feet hurt but i try not to think about the pain, as I know that she needs me and that she is relying on me to be there to take care of her right now.  I also made a promise that I would take care of her until the parents got their act together.  I feel it is best to keep the family together, rather than have someone who is not vested in blood to be taking care of my grandchild.  I was recently told that some grandparents don't care to do this, but I don't understand how one can turn over your blood to "the system."

Where does the strength come from? I think a lot of comes from the strength that my Grandmother's memory gives me.  A lot of comes from the strength God gives me.
I am now looking into childcare.  She is at an age where she needs that interaction with other children, and the help during the day would surely help me.  Not only am I dealing with illness but I also home-school my youngest son, and it has been a challenge to keep on that schedule since having my granddaughter on a full-time basis.  We do simple classes when she is awake, but more challenging lessons like science and math have to be left for when she is taking a nap.  This is the time when I should also be taking a nap with her, already sleep-derived as I am, but I have to tend to my youngest son, and his needs as well.  After all, he requested home-schooling and I promised him I would, and I also see this as the best for him right now.  


According to studies, it is said that Grandparents who care for their grandchildren live up to five years longer than those who don't, and that caring for grandchildren increases life expectancy significantly more than being healthy, active and independent.   We shall see.


I do get a sense of satisfaction and pride from taking care of my granddaughter.  She really is such a joy to have around.  She is not deprived of seeing her parents, as they do come each week to see her, and she does enjoy being with them, especially her dad, who she seems to have a special bond with.  Having her also gives us the opportunity to impart cultural values and family tradition, which would not have been the case had she not been in a relative home. My granddaughter has been a
 sense of security,  given me the opportunity to develop a deeper relationship with her, and keeping the family together, no matter how much of a major adjustment we have had to make to our home.

Edith Cowan University's Doctor David Coall, author of a recent study on grandparents raising grandchildren indicates that "There is a growing body of research showing care-giving activity – where you do something for someone and expect nothing in return – has significant health benefits."Don't get me wrong.  Everything is not all perfect for me.  It is a challenge to make my own doctor appoints because now I have to consider another tiny human being.  I have to consider childcare, and once that is situated then life will be a little more flexible.  My granddaughter also has her own health issues for which she takes medication daily, and so that is also thrown into the mix.

Self-care is essential when you have normal responsibilities, but even more so when the role of caregiver is thrown in the mix  for taking care of a grandchild. 


I must get ready for the day.  I usually head into the kitchen now to make breakfast for my son and granddaughter.  My granddaughter is an early riser, and I must be ready to go when she does get up.  Although I feel that  I am being rejuvenated by the constant companionship of much younger people. And I do derive immense satisfaction providing my grandchild with a safe, nurturing, and structured home environment in which to grow and feel loved.

Until next time....must get ready for the day.....I feel an Epsom salt bath soak is in order before breakfast.


Thursday, November 9, 2017

The choice that my Grandmother made



Recently I've been thinking of my grandmother a lot.  It's really nothing new, but I have been thinking of her in terms of a choice that she made at the request of my mother when I was two years old.

You see my grandmother raised me from time I was two until I was twelve.  It would have been longer I am sure, had she not developed cancer and passed from it.

My grandmother has been with me for the last few weeks....well over a month now, and I have been thinking of how challenging it must have been for my grandmother to take care of me.  Did she accept it willingly when my mother asked her to give up her golden years to raise her grandchild?  Was she resentful?  What kinds of thoughts were going through her head?

These are the kinds of things that I would have loved to ask her, had I been given the chance.

I love my granddaughter, and cannot imagine my life without her, no matter the circumstances that caused her to come into this world.  I look at her everyday and wonder if her parents realize just how precious she is, what a blessing she is, and how truly blessed they are to have her?  Or are they so caught up in themselves to see it? 

Am I caught up in selfish thoughts to realize how she has been blessing my life?  After all, I never expected to be raising or assisting in raising a grandchild.  I still have one child at home, and was looking to forward to my golden years when he finally graduated high school and moved on to college and then to the rest of his life.  I expected there to be some of natural transition from parent to doting grandma, but not living with grandma.  My plan was to be the kind of grandparent who took the grandkids to the park, the occasional sleepover, spoiling them rotten, and leaving the hard work to the parents.

If I had not made the decision to shelter, I know what would have happened.  She would have been bounced around from one foster home to another, and that is certainly what I want for my grandchild.

There are times that I feel overwhelmed, and angry at the decision made by my child.  There are times that I wonder if I will be able to continue doing this.  Then I take one look at my granddaughter and know that I have no other choice, and that I made the right decision to take her in.  My life has been richer for doing so.

I think about my grandmother everyday, but even more so now because of what she did for me, and what I am able to do for my own grandchild.

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Rough day.....

I forced myself to stay in bed an extra half hour this morning die to extreme fatigue.  Having gone to bed late the night before, I decided that I did not have to get up as early as I typically would.  However, my eyes popped open at 6:00 a.m. and there was no going back to sleep.

Fatigue stayed with me for the majority of the day.  The usual afternoon walk took twice as long due to severe nerve pain in the top of my right foot.  I was drained, as I pushed my granddaughter in the stroller.  My youngest son rode his scooter beside me.  He did not know how tired I was feeling or how much pain I was in, as I had done a great job hiding it from him for most of the day.

Currently my head feels like it is on fire, and fatigue has just set in again.  I think I will go to bed early tonight.  I cannot keep my eyes open any longer.  This is extreme fatigue.

We'll catch up tomorrow.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Hats, Scarves, Gloves, and warm Socks: a must for me, a lupus patient

I use gloves, not only during the winter time when the temperatures dip, but all year round.  I get all my gloves from the Dollar Tree.  You might think that $1 gloves or scarves will not do the job to keep my hands and extremities warm, but they really do work.

If you have any kind of inflammatory condition, it is imperative that you stay warm.  Cooler or cold temperatures tend to cause flare-ups, so staying warm is important to avoid joint pain and stiffness.


When it’s time to head out into the cold weather, keep your head and toes warm and dry with these stylish and affordable $1 hats, scarves, gloves, and warm socks. 



SHOP Winter Apparel At Dollar Tree






Stock up on winter accessories to have extras on hand at home, or mix and match to create a gift set that anyone will love!






Merry Christmas!!





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